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1. Introduce yourself to the parent(s), guardian or other person in charge of the mentee, if they are at home. Spend a few minutes getting to know one another. 2. Go over the "So You're Going to Have a Mentor" sheet with your mentee, reading it aloud, and pausing frequently to verify that he/she understands. An older child with good reading skills may wish to read it aloud. (view the on-line version of this page). 3. Go over the "Mentor/Mentee Agreement" with your mentee, again reading it aloud, filling in your and your mentee's names where appropriate, and both signing at the bottom. For younger children who are unable to sign their names, it is still a good idea to hold their hand and help them to sign. This helps enroll them in the importance of the mentor/mentee relationship they are entering into. (view this agreement online - RTF file). 4. At this point, it is a good idea to take the mentee out for a short while, to spend some time sharing information. You may go for a drink or treat, or walk in a park, etc. This is your first opportunity to begin forming the bond through which you will influence your mentee. If your mentee is reluctant to talk about him/herself, it is a good idea to talk about yourself to break the ice. 5. Encourage your mentee to share as much information as he/she feel comfortable sharing, asking "open-ended questions" (this will usually come a little at a time, as he develops trust in you.) 6. Ask mentee about his short-term and long-term goals. These may also be plans for things you may do together as a mentor pair. If your mentee is on probation or in Youth Corrections custody, goals will include those set by his/her case manager or probation officer. 7. Discuss with your mentee and/or his parent/guardian possible times for your next meeting/activity, and where possible, set up a schedule for future contacts. 8. Realize that the purpose of these first contacts is to build a relationship through which you can work to help and encourage your mentee to make positive changes in his attitudes and behaviors. The younger your mentee, the more influence you can have on him/her. |
